Thursday, March 26, 2015


Today, our little rescue kitten is six months old. When we first met him, he was smaller than the palm of my hand. This morning, he ran around our apartment following me, jumped on counters, nuzzled, meowed, tried to eat my feet, and was all around huge and adorable.

Little Oliver Goldman is a huge part of our little family and we are so blessed to have him.

So what led us to adopt an 8 week old kitten right after we got married and bought our first place? I mean... look at that face!?

Before we ever got married Josh and I knew that we wanted a pet. Someday we'd love a dog but we knew that we would never want one while we a) work so much and b) live in a condo. So as we planned our wedding we also planned that someday we would adopt a cat to add to our little family.

Since we didn't live together before getting married, we knew we would need to wait until after we were both Goldmans, but even before the wedding we had started to talk to friends and family about adopting a cat.

From the beginning we both wanted a kitten. We still wanted to do a rescue but we wanted to take a little guy into our home while he was still tiny. Neither of us had ever had a pet on our own as adults so this was an experience we were really excited for.

Oh it was exciting all right!

Guys, kittens be crazy. That's all you need to know. They are so so so worth it. But also insane.

All right so we knew we wanted a kitten and so my family friend JudyAnn gave us a lot of advice (and actually her wedding present to us was a bunch of cat stuff - toys, scratchers, bowls - that Oliver still uses and loves) and Josh's friend Vida invited us to her home to meet the current set of kittens she was fostering when we returned home from our honeymoon.

Yep, it started that soon. :)

When we got to Vida's to meet the four kittens and their mom for the first time our hearts melted. Josh had an immediate connection with 'the orange guy' and I had planned on a girl kitten named Scarlett (O'Hara) since I was ten years old.

Vida and her husband were so incredibly gracious to let us visit multiple times, give us endless advice, and help us make an adoption decision. Ultimately, Oliver, our little orange guy became a Goldman and we never looked back.

At one brief time we thought about adopting two kittens. We know now that we never would have survived! HAHAHA. Except I'm not joking. At all.

We were so lucky to be able to adopt Oliver (who lived with Vida and her husband since he was two days old) from the Prince William Animal Shelter. Since Vida had been fostering the litter, he didn't have to go back to the shelter but could come straight home with us.

He was so so tiny when we first had him home. I hope God blesses us when we have children some day because you would think this cat was a child. We acclimated him to his new space by transitioning him from a large bathroom, to that and a bedroom, and then adding the entire apartment.

Now the little guy who would tentatively look out the door runs our house and he lives in the lap of luxury.

The best part about Oliver is obviously not scooping his litter box or paying for vet bills when he hurt his paw, it is that his little soul is part of our family. He has such a distinct personality - I think he thinks he's a dog because he follows us around and always wants to be touching a human - and is so full of love. He snuggles and rubs heads with us every morning and every night when we get home. He learns new things every day and has more curiosity and zest for life than I've ever seen.

He is a joy. He brings us joy every day.

Adopting a rescue cat was one of the best decisions we ever made. It is not one to be taken lightly - He's a lot of work! - but the rewards are so worth it.

If you think you might want to adopt and live in the DC area, check out Vida's instagram (#thecarrrollsfosterkittens) for lots of cute cat pictures. All these furry babies need homes. Kittens and adult cats (which in hindsight would have been easier to manage haha) are waiting for you!

P.S. His name? We chose Oliver because Josh and I met years ago while performing in Oliver! the musical. No wonder he constantly meows for more food. ;)

Thursday, January 1, 2015


I always get super emotional around New Year's Eve and this year is no different. But it's emotion in the positive sense - I love reflecting on everything that I've accomplished in the past year, all the wonderful things that have happened and all of the blessings brought into my life.

I spend a lot of time in the car driving to work and recently I've been thinking a lot about how my view on life would change if I automatically assumed that everything is for good. 

Think about it... you have to stay late at work because your boss asks you for a deliverable. If 'everything is for good' that means your boss is helping you develop your career and setting you up for success. 

Just an example, but it really makes you think. 

I really believe that people are good at their cores. Barring illness and extreme cases, everyone you meet is ultimately good. And how much better does the world look when we have this approach. I've been trying it recently and I'm going to try even harder in 2015. 

But before we jump in, let's take a look at 2014 and see how I did with those goals...

I had one resolution in 2014: Be Present. Last year I said that I wanted to focus on living 2014 and enjoying every moment of the year of my wedding.

"I will savor the little details and each once in a lifetime experience. I will relish the magazines and I will even enjoy eating extra veggies and exercising. I will glow with excitement and anticipation and feel every inch of gratitude for the support and love I receive from my family."

I can't say that I was perfect, but I think I really accomplished this goal well. My wedding was the best experience of my life. The whole planning process and the day and feeling the love of all of my family and friends and joining my life with Josh's. It's all a miracle if you ask me. And I miss it terribly. I am lucky thought that I felt every moment of it. Really. I think I cried happy tears of love and joy every day in 2014. And I am so grateful.

Which brings me to my goals for the new year. What a joy a fresh start is. Full of possibility and promise, January 1st is a clean slate. I love the sense that there is a clear end and beginning. And yes, one day feels just like the next, but it will be marked with a different number, a different chapter of my life. And since I'm still writing the book, I don't know what will happen next. Isn't it wonderful and scary and thrilling?

I have an overwhelming sense that 2015 will be my Year of Patience. The idea of patience to me is such a positive and calming concept. I've recently had a lot of changes in my little life: bought a condo, got married, changed my name, living with my husband, adopted a kitten. All of these changes are wonderful but I feel as though I am now in a place of stillness. My life does not need a lot of change right now. That is a beautiful thing. 

But for me it is also a challenging one. 

I function best when I have a clear goal and I'm knocking off action items to accomplish it. So what does that mean for 2015. If my goal is to be still, be patient, how do I accomplish that in my vigorous and determined way. 

I think the answer is -- I don't. 

2015: Year of Patience.

2015 is about being where I am right now. Instead of running roughshod over my life and making choices and taking action, it will be about opening myself and remaining still and available for new opportunities and blessings to come my way. 

Do you ever think, "What would have happened if I hadn't made a decision and took a certain path? What would happen if I actually let things come into my life and present themselves?"

Well I'm going to find out. My Grandpa always says, "Patience is a virtue." My usual retort was, "Well, it's just a virtue that I don't have." But not this year! Patience here I come!

So that's the big picture. And I'm excited about it. It will be really challenging for me. And that's the point. 

Just so you don't feel slighted though, I also have one more practical resolution: Take Home Movies. Growing up, my mom always took movies of everything and now we can watch them and giggle and feel nostalgic. Starting now, I'm taking them for my family and my life. And in 30 years, they'll be a hoot to watch!
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